A while ago I wrote a post on The Time I Forgot About My Husband. In today’s post I’m going to do a follow up to that post just so you can better understand where I was coming from with in that post.
The Time I Forgot About My Husband was not written to put my husband down, to slander him, or hurt him in anyway.
My husband is a wonderful man and great father to our soon to be three children. He may be flawed but we all are because we are all sinners living in a sinful fallen world.
The purpose to that post was to help others in a similar situation. I believe that we go through trials in life so that we may then use those trials to help others.
2 Corinthians 1:3-5 say’s “Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God. For just as we share abundantly in the sufferings of Christ, so also our comfort abounds through Christ.”
Holding Our Spouses to a Higher Standard:
Being in this world we have a tendency to judge others and hold others to a higher standard than we hold ourselves. Holding our spouses to a higher standard isn’t fair, we all sinners. What makes us any different from our spouses?
Romans 3:23 says “for all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God,”
We should so mercy and grace to others just as the Lord shows mercy and grace to each of us.
Titus 3:4-5 says “But when the kindness and love of God our Savior appeared, he saved us, not because of righteous things we had done, but because of his mercy. He saved us through the washing of rebirth and renewal by the Holy Spirit,”
The bible tells us in James 5:7-9 that we are to be “Be patient, then, brothers and sisters, until the Lord’s coming. See how the farmer waits for the land to yield its valuable crop, patiently waiting for the autumn and spring rains. You too, be patient and stand firm, because the Lord’s coming is near. Don’t grumble against one another, brothers and sisters, or you will be judged. The Judge is standing at the door!”
The Judge is standing at the door! The Lord is the ultimate judge and He will be waiting on judgement day to give the final say we don’t need to put judgement on others because we don’t even come close to Godly, as we are sinners.
Matthew 7:3-5 tells us “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.”
Giving Up On Our Marriage or Choosing Forgiveness:
Are we just to give up on our marriage that was created by God and the vows we took before God because things get tough and we don’t have the pitcher perfect marriage we envisioned we would have?
Genesis 2:24 says “That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.”
I personally feel that anyone should give up on a marriage without trying to bring that marriage to God first. Letting Him work on that marriage to make it in His image.
Hebrews 13:4 tells us that our “marriages should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.”
Again God will be the judge on judgement day, we need not to judge others who get caught up in sin but instead if someone is caught in a sin, you who live by the Spirit should restore that person gently Galatians 6:1.
Colossians 3:13 says that we are forgive others as God has forgiven us as sinners. “Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.”
In Matthew 18:21-22 Peter asks God “How often should we we forgive others that have sinned against us?” And Jesus replies with “Not just seven times, but seventy times seven.”
We should always have a forgiving heart toward those who who have sinned against us because the Lord forgives us every time we sin against Him. No one is perfect we are all sinners in a sinful fallen world.
Proverbs 31:11-12 says “Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value.She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.” If we turned our backs on our husbands every timed they failed or have fallen how could your husband have full confidence in you that you would be there when they needed you the most? We are to bring our husbands good not harm all the days of our lives.
1 Peter 4:8 tells us that we are to “love each other deeply, because love covers a multitude of sins.” So if our husbands sin against us shouldn’t we show them love if it covers a multitude of sins, just as Christ shows everyone of us love when we sin? Another bible verse that goes along with this on is Proverbs 10:12 “Hatred stirs up conflict, but love covers over all wrongs.”
Lets Show Our Spouses Gods Word
1 Peter 3:1-6 “Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to adorn themselves. They submitted themselves to their own husbands, like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her lord. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear.”
1 Peter 3:8-22 “Finally, all of you, be like-minded, be sympathetic, love one another, be compassionate and humble. Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult. On the contrary, repay evil with blessing, because to this you were called so that you may inherit a blessing. For,“Whoever would love life and see good days must keep their tongue from evil and their lips from deceitful speech. They must turn from evil and do good; they must seek peace and pursue it. For the eyes of the Lord are on the righteous and his ears are attentive to their prayer, but the face of the Lord is against those who do evil.”Who is going to harm you if you are eager to do good? But even if you should suffer for what is right, you are blessed. “Do not fear their threats; do not be frightened.”But in your hearts revere Christ as Lord. Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect, keeping a clear conscience, so that those who speak maliciously against your good behavior in Christ may be ashamed of their slander. For it is better, if it is God’s will, to suffer for doing good than for doing evil. For Christ also suffered once for sins, the righteous for the unrighteous, to bring you to God. He was put to death in the body but made alive in the Spirit. After being made alive, he went and made proclamation to the imprisoned spirits— to those who were disobedient long ago when God waited patiently in the days of Noah while the ark was being built. In it only a few people, eight in all, were saved through water, and this water symbolizes baptism that now saves you also—not the removal of dirt from the body but the pledge of a clear conscience toward God. It saves you by the resurrection of Jesus Christ, who has gone into heaven and is at God’s right hand—with angels, authorities and powers in submission to him.”
How do you show your spouse forgiveness and love?