The Time I Forgot About My Husband


The Time I Forgot About My Husband

Yes the title is correct. This is about the time I forgot about my husband. Now you may wonder why or how on earth you could forget about your husband especially when you live with him and see him everyday?

Well with everyday life going around us (parenting, having new babies, homemaking, appointments, working) sometimes we can get caught up in it all.

It was the beginning of summer and my husband and myself were taking our kids outside to play, at the time our boy’s were three and one.

My husband had went outside with the boy’s before me, I had to gather a couple of things to take out with us (drinks, snacks, and toys).

My husband’s phone went off, he had left it on the kitchen counter which was unusual.

Now I’m sure people are not going to agree with my decision to check my husband’s  phone. They will argue that looking at a spouse’s phone is an invasion of privacy.

My husband and I had a relationship where we often looked at each others phones and it was not a big deal, we had nothing to had from each other.

Thinking the message was from his work I looked at his phone, but what I found was photos of another woman, my heart and stomach both sank.

So I locked the screen on his phone with the photos still up and carried his phone to him. When he unlocked his screen to look at his phone his face went ghost white.

We didn’t really talk about the situation, other than apologies, to really work through the situation. When we finally did that’s when I realized that I had forgotten about my husband.

I had been so caught up with taking care of our two small children, not sleeping at night, trying to keep the house clean, cooking dinners, and taking care of the bills that I had neglected my husband because in my mind I just thought “well he is a grown man, he doesn’t need my attention.”

1 Corinthians 7:5 “Do not deprive each other except in mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.” 

I was ignoring him in and out of the bedroom, most nights we had a child in our bed.

He worked a lot at that season in our lives and we weren’t really communicating at all.

It took me months to stop blaming him for what he did but in reality I was really mad at myself for treating my husband so poorly.

Once I was able to realize why I was truly upset we moved past it and our relationship has grown stronger because of that bump in the road.

So ladies for the love of Pete do not forget about your husbands. If you husbands go outside your marriage it may be a result of how they are being treated inside the marriage.

If you are giving all your time and energy to homemaking, parenting, working, etc. you are then probably giving your husband whats leftover of your time and energy.

Your husband is the one person that you will be left with once your children are grown so while your kids are young build a great relationship by making it a point to put your husbands first so once your kids fly the nest you will still have and extraordinary relationship with your husbands.

Genesis 2:24 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.”

Besides it will only benefit your children to see a mom and dad that love each other and treat one another well by putting the other first.

I now do my best (we all fall short of the glory of God) to live a Christ centered life where God comes first, my husband comes second, and my children come last.

Ephesians 5:22-24 “Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.”

Romans 3:23 “For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,”

Hebrews 13:4 “Marriage should be honored by all,”

I know it sounds horrible to put your children last but in my experience of doing just that our family life runs so much smoother.

What are you doing to not forget about your husbands in the midst of the mundane?